You’ve planned your wedding day to the T. You’ve sorted everything.
All is going well. But then, dark clouds appear overhead and the heavens open!
Every year it seems that my wedding couples step it up a gear in terms of style and glamour, and this year has certainly been no exception! But one thing that I have noticed is that many in the bridal party don’t how to wear a wedding buttonhole.
When Martyn and I are photographing the bride and groom prep – the time when everyone in the bridal party is getting ready ahead of the wedding ceremony – we’re often having to step in and help position the buttonholes!
When it comes to button holes, there are different rules for men and women which make it all the more complicated. I’m not sure why more florists don’t include instructions!
So, in today’s post, I wanted to share my top tips for how to wear a wedding buttonhole.
Read on to get the lowdown and if you find this useful, why not share this with all your bridal party ahead of your wedding so that there aren’t any slip ups on the big day?
Women wear buttonholes – sometimes known as corsages – on the right-hand side of their outfit. (Perhaps it’s because women are always right?!!) In contrast, men wear button holes on the left.
Traditionally a carnation or a rose are used in buttonholes, but you needn’t stick to the rules! You could always choose a flower that will complement the flowers in the bridal bouquet.
As the bride, you could even add beads, pearls or feathers and really go to town with it! So, really, the choice is yours! You can go simple or ornate. It’s your wedding, so anything goes!
There is much controversy about this, and a lot of contradictory advice online.
But as I understand it, traditionally men wear a button hole facing up, with the flower pointing towards his left shoulder.
Women wear the button hole the other way – downwards, with the stem pointing up to her right shoulder.
Usually, button holes come from the florist with a long pin attached. So use this pin to position it correctly on your outfit, securing the flower to your clothes.
Position the flower on the jacket lapel, then insert the pin through the back of the lapel to the side of the flower. Pierce it through the stem of the flower, and then back through the lapel on the other side. Your aim is to secure the buttonhole as tightly as possible.
I’ve seen men who have a buttonhole in their jacket put the stem of the flower into that hole to keep it in place as well, although it doesn’t always sit right doing this. Usually, it looks better to position the flower on the outside of the jacket lapel, without tucking in.
I’m always willing to give a helping hand too….
So that’s it! I hope it was helpful and that you now feel more clued up about how to wear a wedding buttonhole?
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The pre-ceremony ‘Bridal Prep’ is definitely one of my favourite aspects of a wedding day.
I really enjoy photographing my brides as they are getting ready for their wedding. Surrounded by their mum, close family and bridesmaids, it’s a really exciting part of the day.
Everyone is nervous with anticipation and spirits are high.
But one thing that is sure to kill the atmosphere and add a lot of unnecessary stress to your day is if you are getting ready for your wedding day, at a venue that isn’t your home, and then realise you forgot to pack something.
That moment when it dawns on you that you haven’t packed your favourite lipstick, a needle and thread, a pair of scissors, or that special piece of jewellery that you were planning to wear is just terrible to watch.
The brides face sinks and panic sets in! Believe me, I have photographed so many weddings over the past ten years and have seen this happen a lot.
So, to help you avoid making the same mistake, I have created a wedding day packing checklist, which is free and available for you to download below.
You have so much to think about as your big day approaches, so I hope this will help you keep calm and feel in control.
It’s a list of everything you may need on your wedding day. So use it as you prepare your overnight bag and cross things off before you head to the venue or wherever you are getting ready for your ceremony.
If you do, you can then be confident that you have everything covered.
Not being adequately prepared on your wedding day and having everything to hand that you are going to need is a sure-fire way to get your wedding day started on the wrong footing.
I really hope that you find it useful! After your big day has passed, do return to let me know in the comments below if it was.
When you are planning your dream wedding, you aren’t a slave to fashion or fads. You have a distinctive, elegant style that you’ll want to emulate throughout your wedding.
Yet, you’re interested in knowing what the latest wedding trends are. So, I’m here to help!
I met Charlotte and Tim roughly a year before their wedding day. They came to see me at the studio, where we chatted about their big day, their expectations.
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